Pamela Vuillemenot Waesche passed away peacefully surrounded by family on December 1, 2023.  Obituaries generally provide a timeline of the individual’s life and accomplishments, but Pam’s emotional contributions of love and kindness are much more indicative of the life she led.

Pam and her husband of 53 years, John, shared a love that transcended all life’s struggles and hardships. She was smart, loving, empathetic, and together, she and John raised three daughters they could not be prouder of.  Her children and their families are the legacy she leaves behind.

Pam was born September 30, 1947, the daughter of Robert and Leontine Vuillemenot.  She attended Oradell public schools in New Jersey where she met John at a 6th grade square dance and is where he first fell in love with her.  She graduated from Skidmore College in 1969 with a BA in American Studies.  Pam held professional positions at the Guggenheim Museum, Time Life, and The Library of Congress, but her greatest achievement and focus was always on the care and support of her family and others. In Westport, CT, where she and John raised their family, she worked with Au Pair in America and the Westport Housing Authority helping those in need find a home, spent her summer mornings tending and harvesting vegetables for local soup kitchens as a member of the Greens Farms Garden Club, and cared for any animal in distress.

She is survived by her husband, John Waesche, of Westport, CT, her daughters, sons-in laws and nine beloved grandchildren: Wendy, David, Kate, Lucy and Matthew Lavallee of Southport, CT;  Dana, Jamey, Jackson, Toby, and Kiley Gifford of Hillsborough, CA; and Erin, George, John, Charlie, and Lily DiGuido of Fairfield, CT.  And, a multitude of cherished friends who all provided constant camaraderie, love, and support.  They will all miss her presence, laughter, and guidance in their lives. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that a donation to a charity of your choice be made in her name.